Having had sex with both men & women allows me to walk in many shoes with a soft spot for understanding bisexuality — although, now when asked if I’m gay my answer is I’m selectively gay — which I’m sure stirs up some folks that firmly believe for a dude, once-you-go-cock — you’re locked into the gay camp for life.

I‘ll take a moment to explain myself here: selectively gay is more a sign of slowing down — and getting older — looking to settle down on a long term with that right human being you want to wake-up-next-to-on-a-daily (and it will probably be a dude) but it’s nice to be open minded.

We shot this Debating Being Gay or Straight! video back in 2007 and it went viral on YouTube with the most comments on any of my videos and 10 years later I’m sure the debate will continue

Nowadays, you can listen to me debate on my new podcast — Our HeadSpace Episodes # 1 – 28 on our Souncloud channel

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